First off, I feel that these two ideas are completely different.
They could relate and be looked at in a similar way but the Author from “Why
you shouldn’t have children” and Terry Crews have two complete different points
they’re making. Crews goes into depth about way more than Moran and kind of
just looks on the surface. The whole article was her complaining about being
asked about having children and the pressure that’s put on it but I don’t necessarily
think that is a bad thing. Why is it bad if someone asks if or when you’re
going to have kids? It’s a simple question with a simple answer. A majority of
people do have kids and will have an answer to this question so I don’t know
why this is such a big problem or why this one simple question was taken so
far. People aren’t asking a begging for kids in a rude way or to frown upon
someone when their answer is no. I think its more of a publicity thing because that’s
exactly what people want to hear. Everyone
goes crazy over knowing when a celebrity is pregnant because it’s a fun and exciting
thing and that goes for a family member or friend becoming pregnant too. It is
an exciting thing. I do think that Crews had some very good points in his talk
he gave. I like what he was saying about rape and how its never acceptable.
Everyone knows it’s a horrible thing, because it is but he said it in a way
that is not really seen from everyone. He was relating it to his daughter and
mother and that’s something more people should do and I totally agree with him.
Another thing that he talked about was how feminism is not thinking you’re
better then men it is just gender equality. I totally agree with this and I think
people throw that F word around too much and they are quick to judge. Basically
I think these two people are just talking about two similar things in a completely
different way and I do think that if they sat down and talked they could come
to some sort of agreement and have the same overall values.
I personally disagree with what you were saying about "Why You Shouldn't Have Children". While most people do want to have kids, it's annoying for the people who don't want kids because as she goes on to explain, not only do they ask you when you're going to have kids, but they go on to pressure you about how one day you will want them, even though you just said that you didn't. I don't think the question should not be asked though, I just think that it is unnecessary for the media and everyone to ask these questions all the time. The only people that should have the right to really ask you that question is your family and friends, not some random person that is interviewing you. Celebrities get pressured into having kids because they are being asked this question so much, and then they get judged when they say they don't want to have kids. Having kids is great I'm sure, but you should not have to be forced into wanting a child.
ReplyDeleteI can definitely agree with you Maddie that the interview with Terry Crews went a lot more in depth. He discussed what the root of the problem was and made sure not to put anyone at fault or at blame. Crews even addresses those men that think manhood means having a lot of sex with different women. Instead of saying they are terrible people and they are despicable he instead says that it is a mindset and this mindset if a product of their up bringing. Moran in "Why you shouldn't have children" puts all the blame on those who ask when a woman is going to have a child. What if they are also a product of their up bringing? I believe by asking a woman if she is going to have children you are in no way disrespecting her. Referring back to the interview with Terry Crews if you see someone as equal, in this case asking a women if she is wanting to have children you do not see yourself as better as that person which will lead to mutual respect. Now on the other hand if you ask women if they are going to have children in attempt to belittle them or make them appear inferior to others who are mothers that is when those women become agitated.
ReplyDeleteI agree with what you were saying in your blog post to be completely honest. I do feel that sometimes women take feminism a bit far by saying that they are better than men, because in reality it is just gender equality. I also agree that the two readings are not talking about the same things. Manhood and feminism are not the same thing and should never be seen as being the same. Terry Crews had some great points. Being a man is not all about being strong and indistructibe. He is letting men know that it is okay to admit that something is too much for you to handle, it is okay for you to let you walls down. This is something that a lot of men in our generation need to hear. He also made an outstanding comment about sex saying, "Sex is not intimacy." This means that having lots of sex will not make you a man, sharing an intimate connection and being able to love someone makes you more of a man than having sex ever will.
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