Chinenye
Nkenke
In the article titled “The Death
of Pretty”, the author is basically complaining about how the whole idea of
being pretty is dead. Pat Archbold, the author, defines pretty as “…a mutually
enriching balanced combination of beauty and projected innocence…” My interpretation
of this is that there is a certain standard that women are meant to uphold.
Women are supposed to be seen as butterflies – cute, beautiful, delicate, etc. He
says that women of today want to be considered hot. In our generation, a girl
that is hot is called a ‘bad bitch’. Urban Dictionary defines a bad bitch as “…females
that have a bad attitude, but an attractive body…” This is basically saying, a
female who is all looks and no substance.
In the second article titled “Dadbod:
A New Word for a Timeless Physique”, the author Spencer Kornhaber speaks about
how women now find men with the body of a father to be attractive. He goes on
later to say that women like to see themselves as the pretty one.
To me, these articles are a double
standard, because one author says that it is okay for men, to be somewhat unkempt,
but the other says that women should look their best at all times, but still be
innocent because that’s what men are attracted to. To be honest, I like my men
well groomed, just as he would like me to be well groomed. I want a guy with a nice
body, forget all that shit about a ‘dadbod’ – it’s gross to me. What I’m saying
that everyone has a personal preference, you shouldn’t generalize a specific
gender and say, “Oh, you all should look like this because we find it attractive.”
No. It doesn’t work that way. Every individual has a right to portray
his/herself however they want to be seen. You either take it or leave it.
I TOTALLY agree with you Cheyenne a 100%. now an days guys rather have a girl that basically sells the look that society is going for in order for them to feel like their winning. For instance, I'm pretty sure every guy would like to be with Kim Kardashian and why? because just like you said she's a "bad bitch". But what i don't understand is why girls that are all around gorgeous get downgraded from other women who only have looks.
ReplyDeleteBut in Spencer Kornhaber article i feel that women only like to see themselves as the pretty one due to the fact that society pushes us women to always be pretty like you said Cheyenne. They act like women though can't ever have days when they don't feel good or honestly just don't feel like dressing up. And i bet men feel like that sometimes too, but because men are suppose to be the more "superior gender" it gives them a reason why thy don't have to look good everyday. The last time i checked we all were suppose to be treated equal, so what happened? At the end of the day everybody is different, unique, and special in their own way so don't let us choose according to what is accepted in the world. Because when push comes to shove we have to look at ourselves in the mirror and be happy in who we are.
Cheyenne, this post is awesome. I totally agree that women are held to absurd standards, and then blamed for the ways they are potrayed by the media and others. As a young man it makes me ashamed that men especially try to force women to be something, and then punish women for being what they want to be. The Dadbod article totally contradicts the societal standards and both articles embarrass me to be a man. Men can be want they want but women have to be a certain way to be loved. It is foolish and unfair.
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